From my Album “The Things I Hear”

My wife and I were in St. Louis on the way home from a two-week vacation. We decided to stop at a restaurant before heading home. While we were waiting for a table, another couple approached the restaurant. The guy gruffly said to the lady, “I’m going in to see how long it will take.”

The lady replied, “Should I wait here?”

The guy looked around at the ground, pointed to a spot about 5 feet away, and said, “Stand over there.” The lady just walked to that spot and waited.

It sounds like it might be a comical moment, but in reality it looked abusive and controlling, and it pissed me off. I pictured their future, and the lady standing up for herself and leaving that loser, and it led to this song, and the song title.

In 2013, Janelle and I were driving the 14 hours or so to Montgomery, Alabama, Janelle said, “look at all the wild arborvitae!” We drove in silence for about 45 minutes, then out of the blue, she sang out at the top of her lungs, “ARBORVITAES IN THE WIIIIIIIIILD!!!!” I told her it was an amazing imitation of Eddie Murphy imitating James Brown.

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