Janelle and I have a difference of opinion about the meaning and implications of the phrase “it is what it is”. The interesting thing is, we’re both right – it’s all about perspective and experience.
Resignation
In Janelle’s experience, this phrase has been used as resignation, and many times as an excuse NOT to change. She has heard the phrase used in this manner so often that she is sick of hearing it.
I can easily see why you’d get tired of the expression if someone were using it like:
Well, you may not like how I’m acting, but it is what it is.
or
Nobody likes being mugged at gunpoint, but I need some heroin, so I’m really sorry, but it is what it is.
Reality Check
For me, the phrase is actually an inspiring reality check, and the reason is that I had a job for five years with a boss that I really admired, and he used this often, and in this way.
So we’re five people short at work, and we have to get 26 flights loaded on eleven different ramps, and keep them all guarded. It is what it is. Let’s get moving.
Basically, in my interpretation of the phrase, we are saying. This is reality, we can’t change reality, and we can’t change the situation – but we can change ourselves and challenge ourselves, and figure out a way to get this job done.
Us
I like my perspective on this commonly used phrase much better than I like her perspective. This should be very surprising to exactly zero people.
Janelle still hates when I use the phrase, but like I tell her, it is what it is.
Husbands and wives: what can I tell yer? It is— [M.R. is abruptly strangled by an enraged blogger]
Grrrr… 🙂
It’s kind of a glass half empty/half full interpretation, isn’t it? I like your version as well, but then I’m an optimist. That would be an interesting thing to do a survey on. 🙂
Thought-provoking post. Thanks. 🙂
Thank you for reading, Linda! I’m sure there will be as many interpretations as there are people 🙂 I’m scared to do surveys based on the underwhelming lack of response to previous tries 🙂
In the last response I put an apostrophe in “surveys”. It’s corrected. Thought you should know 🙂
i got a 72 on my midterm last night. it is what it is:)
I will still come to you for my heart surgery. (I know, I know, but still…)
hahahaha! thanks for your confidence in me:) although i’m pretty sure i got all of the heart questions wrong, oh well, it is what it is:)
Resignation, in my opinion, is reactive. I prefer to be proactive–most of the time. Sometimes I don’t have the energy. BUT if all I do is react, I will always be less than I could be if I were to take a little action. It is what is, but sometimes I do have an effect on what is. And I’m fooling myself if I think that nothing I do matters. NOT doing something might actually matter a lot more. Then again, I ramble. 🙂